If my girl or a female friend asks me this question, I’m told there is only one correct response – “of course not, why would you think that?” Using this response is the nice, polite, gentleman way to react. It will more than likely make her smile and it will not be mentioned for an extended period of time. During this time she will probably go to the gym less and gain more weight. So although it was nice of you to lie, I mean, to tell her this, is not very helpful nor healthy.

As a friend we have certain responsibilities and at the top of that is being honest. Honesty builds trust and so on and so forth. However, during this situation, all parties involved is aware of the obvious – the correct answer to that question was “Yes” in the most simplest terms. I would add that is not WHAT you say but HOW you say it…but regardless the truth has to be said. We all know that exercise is not optional…it is a requirement in living a healthy long life. The question was probably asked due to her assessment that she needs to lose weight. By her asking, it is a cry for help in the form of a second opinion.

What she is looking for is honesty and if you honestly don’t believe she needs to lose weight, then say that…but don’t be afraid to speak your truth. My motto for situations like this is “don’t ask ME a question if you don’t want MY answer.” Now, being the gentleman I was raised to be, if I thought she needed to “improve her fitness”, I would invite her to the gym with me or provide her with a couple workout routine of her own. I also advise that you not wait for her to ask before inviting her to join you…makes this conversation a whole lot more pleasant.

Which side of this are you on – as a woman, would you expect the nice answer or the correct answer? Fellas, would you be bold enough to answer honestly, if it wasn’t favorable? And vice versa…because we should be taken care of each other, I know I need a reminder at times to upgrade my workout plan.